me and my boyfriend have been together a few months and have been inseperable . we spend every evening together . for valentines day i was got more than anyone could expect. he is really good to me buys me little thoughtful things all the time and we have the best fun together. We told each other we loved each other and we even talked that we could be the one for each other . basically it is i thought just this brilliant realtionship. i knew that he had sexual desires for things like swinging and is bi and i had no problem with that as long as there is no lies. i didn't want to do it as i didnt feel comfortable yet so early on but i have always been curious but i wont rush into anything. but i started piecing things together like new friends on msn most people would think he is dumb as i can see it but i think reverse psychology if he puts it there for me to see then they are just male friends. i went to send a message off his phone this morning and i see one sexual message from a girl. i read more they were purely sexual and i feel betrayed it doesnt look like they have met. he denied it when i asked him about textt but freely said yeah i am on the site .why didnt he tell me either i wanna do swinging and we finish our relationship or do you wanna join . cake and eat it i guess. what do i do now? we are meeting up tonight. i think he is really afriad thinks he has lost me . i dont want us to end but it not what he has done it just the secrecy. What do you guys think of the whole thing ? im really upset at the minute need some clarity. i thought we were soulmates and i thought he did too